It Will Get Better When...

I hear the phrase "It will get better when..." a lot now.  Once I had twins the previously invisible sign that read "tell me what you think" must have lit up brighter than Vegas.  I'm not the only one.  Nicolle, my IVF friend and mother of twin girls, gets the same experiences.  Neither of us dislike the experience.  It's fun hearing 50 year old grandmas inform us that they had twins and their twins are still best of friends.  It's great.  I always wanted to be in the "mommy club", but I didn't realize how many little subgroups there were in the club.  Twin moms seem to call out to each other "Hey I've been there, you can do it, it's great so don't blink."  It's been a fun experience so far!  The only phrase I find myself hating to hear is "It gets better when..."  The answers vary.  The twin mommy that said it to me yesterday choose 3 years old as the "better" age.  I've also heard 9 months, 2 years old, they go to school, sleep through the night, start talking, and when they're adults - I'm pretty sure the father that said that was simply trying to get smile though.  However I hate the assumption people make when they say "it will get better"- in a tone that I can tell means they think it isn't good right now.
 It is awesome!

3 weeks

Sure it was easier at 3 months than 3 weeks.  It was easier at 5 months than 3, and it's easier at 6 months than it was at 5.  But I can't say one was most obviously "better" than the other.  Once these two got here everything has been "better."  Yes, there are still hard days.  Yes, I'm positive my kids cry more than a single baby would cry. Yes, double colic was HORRIBLE, but yes...it was good in its own way too!

3 months

As I packed my children's preemie & newborn clothing I would hold up the teeny tiny onesies and shed a tear remembering how small they were when they were born.  They were small, and helpless, and beautiful. It was "better!"  Then I packed their 0-3 m & 3 m. clothing remembering their first smile, their first roll, and their many other firsts.  It was "better!"  Now as I help them learn to sit, eat from a spoon, and make them laugh, it too is "better!" I can't imagine it getting much "better" with these two than it is right now (other than Rachel sleeping through the night), but I'm sure it will.

5 months

Being a mom is fantastic.  Although it still hurts a little to think on the amount of time and energy it took to get here, I recognize that all of that struggle is part of what makes it so fantastic.  I wish every parent could experience the total dream come true that pregnancy & parenthood was and still is for us!  In the season of thankfulness Mark and I are indefinitely thankful for these two good little babies and that every day, both in the past and future, is already "better."